All this “Girl Power!” crap is getting kinda old.
Tired of propaganda and the things that I’m told.
Not saying these expressions should be completely disavowed.
But even the truth can be shouted too loud.
There’s so much unearned sense of moral superiority.
Trying to give voice to justice and “gender minorities.”
Yes, it’s important, and I suppose it has its place
But some join in the din just to try and save face.
I’ve found that (some) feminists just want to blame
Yet they say that *we’re* the culprits who cause women shame
And that “Ban Bossy” campaign? You cannot be serious.
Celebrities trying to “ban” a word is nothing short of ridiculous.
Guess what, ladies? We’ve got it amazingly good.
Think things might be different if we truly understood
the plight of REAL gender inequality around the world
Like when evil men kidnap innocent girls
American women can by and large live as we please
There’s not any man that I have to appease
I can work, I can worship, I have rights, I can drive
There are so many females who’d kill for our lives.
Now don’t call me ungrateful or say I’m naive.
Don’t presume to tell me the things I believe
There’s nothing in history I’m apt to ignore
And yes, I’m grateful for those who’ve gone before
In 2015, I don’t have to sit and be quiet
But I also don’t have to throw an “Empowerment” riot.
So please stop agitating so much and giving society flack.
If we’re really to be equal, then maybe we can dial it back?
And truth be told, at least from where I stand
I don’t mind a little extra attention from a man.
I’m an intellectual equal, but my lashes are longer.
And I’m okay that he’s faster and physically stronger
True, I throw like a girl, and yes, my push-ups are subpar.
And if I run with a male, I’ll never make it as far.
But that’s just how it is, no need to decry it.
Men have more strength, why try to deny it?
So if we really want true equality
let’s stop with these frivolities.
Women AND men are awesome, that should suffice.
Now can we *please* just get on with life?
“Like most women, I reject the feminist label.
And yes, I’ve read the dictionary definition, thanks.
I judge it by its actions instead.”
–Julie Borowski (love, love, LOVE her! ❤ )
Maroon 5 have always been a bunch of dirtbags, but their newest song “Animals” hits a new low with its strong implications of sexual violence. A lot of the same stuff as “Blurred Lines” going on.
“Baby, I’m preying on you tonight
Hunt you down, eat you alive…
I cut you out entirely
We’re just like animals.”
(and some other obscene lyrics)
THIS is the war on women.
A bunch of libertine, misogynistic, sex-obsessed men who themselves admit they are animals.
PS: Adam Levine is soooooo disgusting. His tattoos are hideous, he sounds like a dying chipmunk when he sings, and he repeatedly puts out crap material.
When I want some maroon in my life, I go for something like this!
The phrase “Separate but Equal” is infamous for its historical context. But looking past that for a moment, I think the idea behind the phrase is relevant to the discussion of gender issues, specifically feminism:
Men and women are equal, both in the laws of the land and in the eyes of God. But they are DIFFERENT. Not utterly and completely different. But they are undeniably distinct in many ways. Biologically (duh), but also cognitively and socially. To pretend that this is not the case is lunacy. Yet some people try.
I’m not going to go get myself killed by throwing around the phrase “separate but equal” in common conversation, but I do think the concept is valid when talking about separate gender identities.
Men and women can have the same rights and equal protection under the law while still acknowledging their inherent differences.
What do YOU think about this kind of thing?
More to come on this issue.
It really bothers me that the American public seems to find it amusing when women (especially young women) in entertainment are crude and brash in the name of being comical. I believe in free speech, I’m not trying to apply a gender double standard, and I don’t think women should just look pretty and say nice things all the time. On the contrary, I like when women are honest and real. Still, I am disappointed that some female public figures base much of their careers on being unapologetically vulgar.
“The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.”
(and don’t be mockin’ her because she rocks the 80s looks!)
Jennifer Lawrence and Ellen DeGeneres are 2 women in the public eye who are, in my opinion (and most other people’s as well!), very, very funny. They are not prudes, they express themselves, but they keep it clean most of the time. And they do NOT degrade or insult others. Classy lasses, I think.
What are YOUR views on (young) women in the media, specifically about what is (un)acceptable behavior and speech in trying to be funny?
Let’s return to virtue, please.
Thanks so much.
There are some (Mormon) feminists who are sincere, honest, and intelligent in their beliefs.
I respect and validate these people.
There are some (Mormon) feminists who are obnoxious, bandwagon followers, and are just looking for reasons to protest and make their annoying voices heard.
I roll my eyes at these people (sometimes literally) and pray they would just STOP!
There is, and always has been, a spectrum of feminism: You’ve got your bra-burning liberals, your Susan B. Anthony’ types, and everything in between. The American author Charlotte Perkins Gilman leaned veeery far to the left, even going so far as to seriously suggest that women should segregate themselves from men and form their own societies. Though I certainly don’t agree with this level of extremism, MANY of Gilman’s other feminist ideals resonate strongly with me, particularly those found in her ever influential piece “The Yellow Wallpaper” (duh!). Gilman perfectly embodies the ambiguity of the concept of feminism, even within a single person.
I personally am conservative/moderate, both on the political spectrum and on the feminist spectrum (though they are of course not mutually exclusive).
What are YOUR thoughts on (Mormon) feminism?
The woman wearing orange in the first picture is Neylan McBaine, a Mormon moderate feminist writer (just like me!). Among other things, Neylan founded the Mormon Women’s Project, an online database that interviews LDS women of a range of backgrounds, experiences, ethnicities, goals, and challenges. I have privileged to be a writer for the MWP. Will definitely write more about it soon. Stay. Tuned.
and I completely validate many of the common concerns that go along with it! Unfortunately, history has shown that many evil and abusive deeds have been done by those professing to act in the name of God. Imperialism/forced conversion, mistreatment of women, acts of terrorism (of a range of means and magnitude), twisting of doctrine for one’s own purposes (the Book of Mormon refers to this as priestcraft), that kind of thing. So I don’t think people who “swear off religion” are necessarily bad people AT ALL (unless they are unkind and blatantly mock others’ beliefs).
But we are all looking for truth.
More to come.
PS. I use such images with intensely great care and NEVER intend to be flippant about abuse of any kind. Just wanted to express that yet again because I simply cannot emphasize it enough. Also, I know that there are many good people in the Catholic Church.
I validate many of the concerns of the Ordain Women’s movement: Sister Kelly is a courageous hero (though I don’t agree with all her views), and is bringing much needed attention to the problem of Mormon gender inequality in a way that is respectful, logical, mature, and tactful. She and her followers are NOT enemies, blasphemers, belligerent protestors, or disturbers to the peace at all. They ain’t steppin’ on the toes of the Brethren, know what I mean?
The First Amendment and all it’s implications
are glorious blessings for everyone!
However, asking for admission to the Priesthood Session is taking it too far. It’s broadcast so all can watch it, but let’s let the men have a lil’ time to themselves. I like some time away from the guys, so I validate them wanting a bit of space from us too every now and then. Plus, it’ll give them a breather from all our heavy perfume!
PS. Kate and Kate both rock the purple/yellow look, huh?
Total coincidence too!
is a man who made her that way.
*I think this lyric is simultaneously pretty clever, a bit funny, but overall very sad.
*Heather likes this line a lot.
*One must be ever so careful of definitives: The word “every” is problematic, but it works here I think.
*Faulker is certainly not my favorite author, but he was a master of the American short story and is still an important influence. Will write more about him on this blog. Can’t say exactly when though….
*Miranda Lambert is one of the most talented musicians today. That girl is the real deal. Will ABSOLUTELY write more about her on this blog. Can’t say exactly when though….
but as a writer, sometimes it can be tricky because of unintended racial implications, know what I mean? Just gotta be wise, like Jacob said, I think…
(I dare you to listen to this song and try to resist tapping your toes.)
And while we are on the subject of race,
allow me to reiterate the words of President Gordon B. Hinckley:
“Racism still lifts its ugly head, and that is unacceptable. I remind you that no [wo]man who makes disparaging remarks concerning those of another race can consider himself a true disciple of Christ.”
[H]e inviteth them all to come unto him and partake of his goodness;
…he denieth none that come unto him,
black and white, bond and free, male and female, Jew and Gentile…
~2nd Nephi 26:33
ALL ARE ALIKE UNTO GOD.
(this is an excellent resource about racial equality within the Lord’s Kingdom).
And ya’ll just to close this post, let me say that I know that unfortunately there still is some racism lurking within our society (duh!), and sadly even within some of the members of the LDS Church (or any others who identify as followers of Christ, or perhaps even simply the human community). But I also know that with the Savior’s help we can do better. So I encourage you all to consider what parts of your actions, speech, and thoughts (Mosiah 4:30) you can improve to make sure you are living more fully in harmony with these sacred gospel principles. Sound good? Peeeeerfect 🙂
I’m not a big fan of the film “Mean Girls.” I feel like in many ways it glamorizes girls being unkind and catty toward each other. And we all know I ain’t about that. But there is truth to be found in sometimes unexpected places:
“You have GOT to stop calling yourselves sluts and whores. It just makes it okay for guys to call you sluts and whores.”
Also, you are pretty, even if your Liz Lemon character isn’t always.
Hear how ridiculous that sounds?
Well, it’s pretty much the same as “if she hadn’t been wearing that/alone at night/flirty/drunk, she wouldn’t have gotten into any trouble. She was asking for it.”
#BLAMING THE WRONG PERSON!
#victim blaming makes me fume…
NO humor in this post.. Usually a lighthearted blog, but there is NOTHING funny about abuse/assault/rape…
#Elizabeth Smart is my hero
#still use your wits but if anything happens its NOT YOUR FAULT!
#first heard of the idea of “rape culture” at the Charlotte Gilman literary conference
(where I presented my piece on “The Yellow Wallpaper”)
MORE TO COME ON THIS ISSUE!
*getting off my soapbox now (not up here very often…)