There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are kind.


It really bothers me that the American public seems to find it amusing when women (especially young women) in entertainment are crude and brash in the name of being comical. I believe in free speech, I’m not trying to apply a gender double standard, and I don’t think women should just look pretty and say nice things all the time. On the contrary, I like when women are honest and real. Still, I am disappointed that some female public figures base much of their careers on being unapologetically vulgar.

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“The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.”
-Former Young Women’s General President Margaret Nadauld
(and don’t be mockin’ her because she rocks the 80s looks!)
Jennifer Lawrence and Ellen DeGeneres are 2 women in the public eye who are, in my opinion (and most other people’s as well!), very, very funny.  They are not prudes, they express themselves, but they keep it clean most of the time.  And they do NOT degrade or insult others.  Classy lasses, I think.
What are YOUR views on (young) women in the media, specifically about what is (un)acceptable behavior and speech in trying to be funny?
Let’s return to virtue, please.
Thanks so much.


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3 responses to “There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are kind.

  1. Don’t mean to nitpick, ’cause I do agree with you. But what about the other half? I think we need more men who are kind, too. (Speaking as one who at least tries my best.)

    • Certainly! Elder Christofferson said, “we need to be men women can trust, children can trust, and God can trust.” I wrote about it here:


      • Nice; I guess I missed that post. Anyway, to answer the question you raised: my opinion is that women post-Mary Tyler Moore have done more harm than good in the name of “progress.”

        Not to say that women were better off in the 50’s; honestly I don’t think I’m qualified to make that kind of assessment. It’s just that in the push for equality, it’s become more socially acceptable for women to say and do things that are just not cool – things that if a man said, he wouldn’t get my respect. And when I tell them that they accuse me of bullying women and wanting them to sit down and shut up. (Sometimes I’m dumb and pick fights with feminists.*)

        Sorry, where were we? Okay, so 50 years ago women looked at Mary Tyler Moore, Donna Reed, Audrey Hepburn, and even Marylin Monroe (who was a bad girl but by today’s standards was incredibly tame!), and wanted to be like them. I’m sure there were others who I’m just not remembering right now. (Like the woman from ‘Move Over, Darling’ and ‘Lover Come Back.’) They may have lived in an “oppressive” society, but they were classy ladies, nonetheless – and I’d be willing to bet, a lot of them used their fame to push the envelope on what women could and couldn’t do, but they did it tactfully, and with style.

        60 years ago (or so) we had Ella Fitzgerald, the Andrews Sisters, Grace Kelly, Debbie Reynolds, and of course who can forget Judy Garland? All beautiful women who, at least when they were in the public eye, appeared to have morals and values and to speak intelligently and treat others with kindness. (But then I wasn’t there so maybe I’m attributing qualities to them that they didn’t really possess – who knows?)

        Anyway, the point is, in our entertainment from my grandparent’s day, people had an idea what romance was about, and about how men and women should treat each other – namely, with respect and dignity.

        (Again, I could be imagining all this, as I wasn’t actually there – but my grandma swears this is the way it was back then, and I’m not usually one to argue with my grandma.)

        Now, (young) women look at Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, Angelina Jolie, the Kardashians, and even Carrie Underwood (I like Carrie, but some of her songs promote violence against useless ex-boyfriends), and they take their social cues from them. And, so do the young men. Like it or not, we form a lot of our ideas about how to interact with women based on what we see women do on t.v. (or the Internet.)

        So, women today can “talk like a man, and spit like a man,” and all the other stuff Kate Winslet says in ‘Titanic,’ plus a whole bunch of stuff that she could not have said and still kept the PG-13 rating, but at what expense?

        I want a woman to speak her mind, to express all her feelings (not just the pretty ones), to like herself and her mate, to find personal fulfillment and satisfaction at home and in the workplace, and to do it all with grace, class, and decorum, and without cursing like a Sailor or saying nasty things about people she doesn’t like or dressing in a way that I have to imagine what she’d look like with clothes on. (Ideally in a happy-go-lucky, carefree world populated by Jim Hardy’s and Linda Mason’s, but that might be asking for just a little too much…)

        “Lazy… I wanna be lazy…”

        But seriously, couldn’t we all use a little more class in our dealings with others?

        * by the way if I ever start a rock band we’re going to call ourselves “Sometimes I’m Dumb and Pick Fights with Feminists” so don’t anybody steal that name or I’ll sue.

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