The disgusting phenomenon known as “strip clubs” is a sad and embarrassing part of our society. As is often portrayed in pop culture, “men” will go to these kinds of clubs (why they are sometimes referred to as “Gentlemen’s Clubs” is beyond me!) soon before they get married, or even for no specific occasion at all. For some reason which I will never fully understand, it seems fun and harmless to casually objectify women. Sadly, sometimes women themselves contribute to this false idea; some think they will be more appealing and sexy if they fulfill some sick fantasy. Ew! Totez gross! Be a lady! And the guys need to be real men (just like Elder Christofferson talked about in this post)! So now howzabout you let me set the record straight on what should REALLY happen on the dance floor.
Hint: it’s classy, clean, AND still lets me bust a move.
(safe for all eyes and ears OF COURSE!)
Truths to Consider:
1) Most girls/women who work in strip-clubs have been abused and are very unhappy (more to come on this idea in another post).
2) Most boys/men who patronize strip-clubs are lonely, desperate, insecure, and unhappy as well.
3) God intended for us to be sexual, but within the realm of a committed, marital relationship (read more about this here), and certainly not in some stuffy, crowded shack of sin that smells like stale armpits and halitosis.
(this sentence will be repeated in this post, FYI).
4) Miley Cyrus has sooooo very much to learn.
5) Playboy King Hugh Hefner is a TOTAL loser!
So what is to be done? Thankfully, all is not lost. There are inspired leaders (ancient and modern) who have given us counsel and truth concerning these issues. Here are just a few insights that will bring us safety and happiness if we heed them:
Dancing can be fun and can provide an opportunity to meet new people. When dancing, avoid full body contact with your partner. Do not use positions or moves that are suggestive of sexual or violent behavior or are otherwise inappropriate….Attend only those dances where dress, grooming, lighting, lyrics, music, and entertainment contribute to a wholesome atmosphere where the Spirit may be present.
[W]atch yourselves, and your thoughts, and your words, and your deeds,
and observe the commandments of God…
And once again, lemme show you a girl who can dance
and have a good time while still keeping things clean:
And ya’ll, this may or may not apply to you, but just so you know,
any man who engages in any sort of these behaviors
doesn’t stand a CHANCE with me!
So keep it clean, and maybe we can get to know each other.
And now let me give you a nice, take-away quote (the one I said I’d repeat!):
“God intended for us to be sexual, but within the realm of a committed, marital relationship, and certainly not in some stuffy, crowded shack of sin that smells like stale armpits and halitosis.”
In conclusion, let me utilize the megaphone pic of the ever lovely Ms. Bedingfield (she can move and still be a lady!) to express something that I really just wanna shout to the world:
Don’t glamorize what is ugly in reality…
*if you wanna pass this message/post along, I wouldn’t object…
PS. This is not a judgment on women who work in the industry, especially because so many of them are coerced or have a terrible background story. Don’t call me judgmental, ok? That’s not what this is about. We’re all children of God, but sin is sin, and I’m not afraid to call it that…