I know that sometimes a situation calls for seriousness/ gravity/ not joking.
I’m not even talking about inappropriate, sexual, offensive jokes at all for now.
I’m talking about people not hearing you…
(this clip is brilliant…)
“The Yellow Wallpaper” SCREAMS (!) of this idea…
*Humor/ casualness can be a defense mechanism against vulnerability and insecurity.
*Within reason this can be healthy and appropriate.
Taking humor too far, however, can make me (and others!) very upset.
Not being taken seriously can be incredibly frustrating.
“Sugar come on, show your soul.”
[and let me show mine too (sometimes)! ]
~U2
“Validation” is a VERY powerful idea. One of the strongest in my lexicon and arsenal against communication breakdowns.
And guess what beautiful, talented, Christlike woman
gave me an in-person vocabulary lesson (LITERALLY!) about it?
Natasha Bedingfield validates me. She does.
“That validation comes from giving it back to the people.”
(More to come on these ideas…)
Oh, and by the way, Carrie and Aleksandr (played by famous dancer Mikhail Baryshnikov) start speaking “the same language.”
If you are in a relationship with less than stellar communication,
there may just be hope.
🙂
Readers: When is humor the way to go,
and when is being serious the correct approach?
AND
How can you improve your listening/communication skillz
with the people in your life?
It hurts to be honest,
and it sucks* to be real.
But it’s nice to find some love that I can finally feel.
* don’t love this word but it works here
